Hope vs Expectation

The line between hope and expectation is quite soft, sometimes hard to distinguish. Hope is an optimistic attitude based on an expectation. Hope is the faith and wishes that something will happen. Hope is flexible, and it’s not limited to our previous experiences. An expectation is an unreal belief that something will actually happen; it’s almost like a fixed and inflexible unreal belief about something that we want to happen. Unfortunately, because we build expectations based on previous experiences, having expectations can end in disappointment.

When our expectations are unmet, we generally respond negatively, affecting the way we see people and our relationships. When someone wrongs us, we “expect” an apology, we expect the person to “make it right,” we have a sense of entitlement because we were expecting a particular action to happen, and we didn’t get what we wanted or what we thought we should have gotten. We often believe that people should do or should be different, and we try to change them. I recall a situation where I had expected a friend to be more supportive during a difficult time, but instead, they were distant. This experience taught me that hoping for someone's support and understanding, rather than expecting it, allows for a more genuine and meaningful connection. For example, I've found that when I approach a conversation with a friend who is going through a tough time, focusing on listening and being present, rather than expecting them to open up immediately, creates a safer and more supportive space for them to share their feelings.

Hope is entirely different. We can adjust our sense of hope based on the circumstances; we sometimes even realize that we had unrealistic hopes, and we can easily let go, but we never give up. There will always be hope. That is not to say that “expectations” are wrong; they can be a good thing as long as they are not harmful or with a sense of entitlement. This is one of the biggest challenges we all face, especially the younger generations. It seems like we expect everything to be given to us, but our focus should shift towards what we can offer to others, and how our actions can bring glory to God and positively impact those around us. For instance, when we take the time to listen to someone who needs guidance, we open ourselves to the possibility of being a source of comfort and strength, and that in itself can be a powerful reminder of the beauty of hope in action.

Expectations are great when they are focused on ourselves. In other words, instead of expecting things from others, we should be expecting something from ourselves; we should cultivate kindness and gratitude, and strive to live a godly life, becoming the best version of ourselves. The reality is, though, that many times we feel like we’ve failed; we feel like we didn’t live up to our own standards, but that only shows that hope is much greater than an expectation. As we navigate life's challenges, our trust in a higher power can be a steady anchor, reminding us that hope is everlasting and doesn’t disappoint, especially when we place our hope in our creator; there is where we find hope.